Most brides want to have the traditional flower girl and ring bearer for their wedding day. Having said that, it seems that more and more couples do not want children at the reception. This is a sticky wicket, indeed, but it can be done properly.
After working at the school for 46 years, De Smet Jesuit High School biology and physical education teacher and varsity soccer and baseball coach Greg Vitello announced he will retire at the end of the school year. Throughout his years at the school, Vitello has coached swimming, football, track and field, baseball and soccer. He coached two Major League Baseball players and five United States National Soccer Teams players. He also is a member of several halls of fame, including the St. Louis Amateur Baseball Hall of Fame and the St. Benedict College Hall of Fame.
Everybody has a cell phone, and almost everybody texts. Texting is easy, cheap, fun, mildly illicit, and it makes you feel cool—it’s kind of like the 21st-century’s version of smoking. And not unlike smoking, it can be offensive at certain times. The good news is, after a solid decade of text capability, certain rules of order have been established; an E-tiquette, if you will. Now before you decide to forward this to the closest teenager you can find, know that I have seen as many—if not more—offenses committed by an older demographic. Texting, like chewing gum, done anywhere but in the privacy of your own room, runs the risk of offense, so here are some basic parameters.
Like it or not, same-sex unions, marriages or commitment ceremonies are happening—and happening in a big way in this country. At Ken Miesner’s, we have been asked to provide floral services for several such occasions.
Everything about modern living is efficiency- and comfort-focused. We went from starched collars and powdered wigs to three-piece suits and jeans and tees. As far as etiquette goes, there are certain formalities that seem to be standing the test of time. Please and Thank you seem to have marched into the information age unscathed. That being said, the rules applying to form of conveyance have relaxed considerably. Texting is de rigueur…for everything.
If one of your holiday gifts involved a diamond and a significant four-word question, your new year might be full of etiquette books and vendor samples. For those still radiating newly engaged bliss, Kate & Company has some advice.
Their intent may be to display witty Twitter hashtags, impressive food arrangements and pictures of cute kids, but the effect is to drive you nuts! A new survey has mapped out which online behaviors irritate us most. Although Facebook, Twitter and Instagram are sources of much entertainment and information, the coin has a flipside: For many, they also are a source for intense annoyance.
Story: Bishop Alfred Bridgenorth and his wife, Alice, are preparing for the marriage of still another of their many daughters, this time the nuptials of young Edith. This morning, their Chelsea home is overflowing with guests, including the bishop’s military bachelor brother Boxer and Alice’s friend, Lesbia Grantham.
Story: Five intrepid sisters from Iowa, driven by youngest sibling Effie’s desire to write, produce and star in her own shows, decide to take their self-made act on the road following the death of their widower father, “Pops.” Effie, her slow-thinking sister Ella (kicked in the head by a mule at age 5), the ‘beautiful one’ Lizzie, the ‘matronly’ eldest Jessie and the would-be comedienne Addie soon are performing around Iowa in the 1890s, hopeful of breaking into vaudeville.
Although Yolf has only been on the market for a couple of months, you’re not imagining things if it sounds familiar to you. Pete Gubany invented the game, and if it wasn’t for the sales help of his friend Terry Pullaro, it might never have made it to market. With several thousand games sold, the game was wildly popular, says Bob Ament, the company’s ‘caddy.’
Story: Jeffrey is 10 years old and a bit too headstrong for his parents’ liking. So, they enroll him in Mrs. Helen Kirk’s manners class at their local YMCA in Steubenville, Ohio. It’s 1967, so Jeffrey and the other students in “Mrs. Mannerly’s” class dress in spiffy fashion which, after all, is part of being properly groomed and presented.
Writing your thank-you notes should start right after any engagement party you may have. If people are kind enough to give you a gift, a lovely handwritten note (on a fold-over note card, written in black ink) is a priority—a priority you should carry all through the bridal shower, cocktail parties, rehearsal dinner and wedding events.
The headline for this column sounds like a dreadful (or possibly entertaining) reality television show. Unfortunately, it is something that every parent has experienced. In fact, many may say that you have not earned your parenting stripes until you have suffered the pain of a problematic play date.
Mimi Fonseca was presented at the Fleur de Lis Ball in 1980, and what she remembers more than anything is the family atmosphere. “My whole family was there: my grandparents, aunts and uncles, sister and brother.”
Undoubtedly, everything is faster paced now than in the ‘good old days,’ whenever those days may have been. Still, there’s no reason to automatically equate modern technology with rudeness, a self-centered attitude and a lack of common courtesy and grace.
In this whirlpool of a world we live in, Thanksgiving has a tendency to get lost. We go from Halloween directly to Christmas to the New Year, almost without taking a breath in between.
My children have always been active in sports—not in that ‘future college draft’ kind of way, but in that ‘future case-of-beer-in-the-park-with-your-buddies’ kind of way. Even so, we’ve had our share of, ahem, incidents.
With wedding season upon us, it’s time to review the ‘rules’ of being a good guest.
We’ve all seen pictures of royal weddings where a princess or duchess will have an entire wedding party of children. Yes, it’s adorable, but if I needed a headache that badly, I would hit myself in the head with a hammer. I know how hard it is to wrangle adult bridesmaids and groomsmen. Could you possibly imagine the job of getting a dozen or so children to go down the aisle?
In my many years of doing weddings, I have been involved in about a dozen of them that were called off for various reasons, and during different stages in the wedding planning: From a broken engagement to the very latest, after the guests have been seated at the ceremony. In all cases, I believe the situations were handled with respect and grace. There are many reasons why a wedding may be called off, including everything from infidelity to religious differences that would have been too difficult for the affected party to overcome.
An old Sinatra songs croons, Love is lovelier the second time around…Anyone considering an encore wedding needs to know a few things—and a trip to your local library, an online query, or a consultation with a wedding planner or a fine florist will be directed toward the proper etiquette.
Just as much a part of the Fleur de Lis tradition is the connection between the Fleur de Lis organization and Cardinal Glennon Children’s Foundation, which has been a beneficiary of the Catholic ball since its beginning in 1958, contributing $2.642 million to date. “It’s been a significant contributor to our foundation, and we value that longstanding relationship with Fleur de Lis,” says foundation executive director Dan Buck. “And what’s also special about it: So many of the young ladies, who go through the process of the etiquette and the formal preparation for the event, or their siblings have actually been Cardinal Glennon patients at one time or another. It’s funny, but each class always has some significant, wonderful Glennon story that families share with us. It’s a program that gives back—sometimes through its own organization.”
The Fleur de Lis Organization is known for its annual Charity Ball, where young ladies dressed in white gowns are presented to the archbishop of the Archdiocese of St. Louis. But for those involved, much of the event’s significance lies in the tradition behind it.
In the 21st century, divorce and remarriage have become commonplace. What once was an exception is now the ‘norm.’ Not surprisingly, a type of etiquette has evolved to deal with such issues that may arise as a result of this: ex-etiquette.